Treat Each Child Accordingly

We have three kids and we expect three different attitudes from each one.  For we know for sure that God created each individual unique, no two different people are exactly alike, even twins! 

So, from our eldest, the middle child and the youngest, we treat them differently and accordingly.  Of course, I emphasize that the love we have for the three of them is the same.  But the treatment would be different at times.  As of this moment, we are still on the process of evaluating each of our child's characteristics, attitudes, interests, moods, skills, favorites and a lot more things to consider.

With this, we could really say we need a lot of patience and much, much lot of grace from the Lord. 

One of the important things to do that I've learned from one of my trusted mentors is that to bless each one of my kids especially when they are already asleep.  Bless them the way our forefathers of old bless their children.  We should really avoid using words that discourage or in a way "curse" our children.  We must remember the "power of words".  Because through this, I believed that it has a great impact on the way our kids will grow.   Besides, people (and even our children) really behave (and grow) the way you expect them to be.

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How to gain your child's trust

During childhood, it is but natural for a child to trust his or her parents.

But as they grow and continue to relate with you as parents, there are times that they thought that they could no longer trust you.  The level of trust began to go down.

As I have experienced, one of the best ways to let your children fully trust you is you must keep your promises.  I believed that promises are not made to be broken but to be fulfilled.  Although we should also be more tactful and careful for whatever promises we made our children.  We must never make promises we could not do and in the end we regret.  As the scriptures says, "let your yes be yes, and your no be no."

Besides, simple promises we made our children and keeping them will really make them to trust us.  And the other side is that when we say to them or request something from them, being also a friend to them, they will readily listen and obey.  That would be truly a wonderful thing!

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Do you want a fish or do you want to know how to fish?

Where do I go from here?

Suppose you are on a deserted island, practically starving to death.  You have just about given up all hope when, finally, a man brings you a fish to eat.  The next day you are hungry again, so the man has to give you another fish.  You become dependent on someone else for your food.

That is the way so many Christians are today.  They depend on others to feed them spiritually.  Many teachers will present to you baked fish, fried fish, broiled fish, fish salad, and everything else, but they may never teach you how to fish for yourself.

If you have already been taught how to FISH for yourself,  You won’t have to be dependent on and wait for others to spoon-feed you.  You will still need to learn from those with more experience, but you can begin to feed yourself.

“. . . from everyone who has been give much shall MUCH be required. . .”

Luke 12:48, NAS

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Teach your children how to be thankful in everything

One of the best attitude to teach and mold into the character of our children is gratitude.

It is but natural for children to have receive something and then forget to thank the giver, and that would truly hurt the giver!  Imagine if you are the giver and doesn't received even a simple thank you.

And worst is, often times, it is but natural for children to complain and grumble in spite of everything!

I often reminded my kids to be really, really, really thankful and grateful in everything, as in EVERYTHING.  Even I myself, practice what I am teaching my kids.  Every now and then if someone did something, a service of any kind, even store clerk, or a bus driver, or a security guard or policeman, or the mailman, and other kinds of jobs people have, I really never forget to say even a simple, heartfelt "thank you."

In the passage of the Scriptures from 1 Corinthians 10:10 we could read, "And do not grumble, as some of them did--and were killed by the destroying angel." (NIV)   What a lesson we could learn from the Israelites and the same lesson we could teach ourselves and our children as well.  

So never complain.  Never grumble.  Never ever murmur.  Because every time we receive something, especially if it is a good thing, or sometimes a "not so good" thing, we should have that gratitude attitude.

Let us remember what was written in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 "In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you."

Thank you for having the time to read this short but meaningful post.

God bless you, your children and your whole family.

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